I pretty much came from nothing, but managed to get out in time to keep my sanity, educate myself, and make a decent honest lifestyle. I married and immediately moved away from family which was one of the best decisions of my life. Here’s the thing…
When I go home to visit, I have 2 choices:
1. Stay with family that will steal everything I have from panties (i know gross) to whatever they can get there hands on
2. Stay with a nice family member with a huge infestation
Another huge problem is that the minute I hit home my family does nothing but beg from me, and it gets irritating, so not only do I have to deal with the stealing, I get begged from the entire time. So I learned a while ago that it’s best for my husband and I to stay in hotels. Somehow my family still manages to steal things from me, and pretty much get me for something. I have never left home without something coming up missing before I get on the plane. I try so hard to plan my trip out wisely but somehow someway something gets stolen. Last year my ipod came up missing, and it was the touch and was my most favorite and was personally engraved by my husband.
Although I am staying in a hotel, what steps can I make to assure that I won’t get stolen from? I already bought a swingpack which you can out over the body and keep on you at all times.
My husband feels like I should leave every at home, my wedding ring, laptop, camera, ipod, and other things but that’s the reason we have it all. I have realized my family will never ever change so I have to take precautions, and be smart about everything.
SORRY THIS IS REALLLLLLY LONG
I met this guy at a bar playing pool. He seemed really nice and we talked all night. He came over to my place and we were just watching movies with my friend and my room mate. He left around 5 in the morning because he had work at 8 and had to catch the first bart train back to his house. He only lives a 15 minute bart train ride away. So the next day he was gonna go to lake tahoe with friends and he said he had a really nice time and that he’d call me when he got back. So a few days went by and my friends kept urging me to text him to ask him out. So finally I did and he replied saying that he would be in the city around 9 and hed call me. So he texted me the next day asking me if I wanted to go to this dance club with him his school was throwing in the city. So I agreed because it sounded fun, and it’s the first guy I’ve been interested in in so long ha. So we met up and I arrived and we had a such a fun time, we kissed, and fooled around he paid for the cab ride home and I invited him in. We fooled around but no sex. I feel really bad because I felt like I was being such a tease but I just didn’t want to come off as a ho. Anyway the whole night he was complimenting me, and the next morning he had wok at 8 in the morning again so he left early. And texted me three times that day after he left. So the third time we hung out I met his dad and dad’s girlfriend that came up from hunnington beach. It was really weird because I told him I was in his town and he invited me to this bike store where his dad was buying him a racing bike. His dad and dad’s girlfriend were really nice it was just a little uncomfortable because I barely knew their son.. He invited me to dinner and this bar in the city later that night with his family and two of his friends. I didnt go to the dinner because I freaked out a little since I didnt know these people that well yet, I didnt want to make a fool out of myself. So he texted me that they were done with dinner and heading out to the bar. I met them and he paid for my drinks at this really nice bar and was holding my hand under the table, the booths were really small and intimate. And then his parents went back to their hotel to sleep and the rest of us went to another bar by my house. Afterwards he came over to my house and we fooled around again but I still didn’t give up sex because we were quite intoxicated. The next morning he didnt seem to mind he was cuddling with me all morning and kissing my head in my sleep. Then he invited me out to have breakfast with his parents before they leave. Their hotel was only 5 blocks from my house. I accepted and we hung out the whole day, even after his parents left. When he left he gave me a kiss and texted me that night with “i had a really good time, have a nice night!” That was the last time we hung out which was a week ago. After that I would text him in between and sometimes would get a text back from him hours after I sent it or no reply at all. This is where the mixed signals come in. I also invited him out to an event this weekend and he said he couldnt make it because he just realized how behind he was in his school work since last weekend. I said that’s okay, next time. and then he texted me with “i have a little gift for u”. He works at a perservatory in his college. so he has to deal with a lot of old artifacts, etc. and when I asked him about the gift he said “150 bc mummy dust and some fragmented scrolls”. It threw me off so I replied with “that sounds great! I have a book for you to read” now that I think back on it I feel so SILLY for saying that because I just realized he was joking.. Anyway, what I really want to know is if this guy is still interested in me or not? I am usually the one initiating the conversation through text from now on. This guy seems like a good catch, I really like his personality I just don’t know how to pursue him or if I even should? I am not used to pursuing anybody. I like this guy because he keeps me on my toes unlike anyone I’ve ever met, and he’s quite a gentleman, and we’ve only hung out 4 times! what should I do in this situation? and yes I am an over analyzer. ha.
(Sorry this is so freaking long winded)
So my bf of a little over a yr has lots of friends – guy friends, girl friends, he is a social butterfly. It is probably because he is in a band as well. He even has some of his ex gf’s as close friends of his. So what you may ask is my point here? I guess I will just cut to it then!
On Monday he told me that one of his friends might be coming down from up north (different state back east) to visit for 4 days. This particular friend is an ex gf of his.
When he first told me I was a little shocked (I asked him “She is flying all the way here just to see little ol YOU???!” and he said ‘yup’)
Well, he is currently in school full time so I don’t get to see him much because of it. It seems as if the only time I can get his undivided attention is when he is between terms (every 3 or 4 months). I actually look forward to being able to hang out with out him obsessing over homework.
Anyways this time between next term is whin his friend is coming down. Anyways I guess a part of me is jealous because now he will be spending the time between terms showing her around town and such. (even though he invited me to go along)
And even more so I was mad because even though it was not all the way set in stone, I had mentioned to him (since about mid DEC) how I wanted to go snowboarding between his terms and stay overnight. And now that is out the window because she is coming to town!
I told him that I didn’t want to sound selfish but I thought we were talking about going skiing? What happened to that? And he told me that we can go (with her in tow, of course). I dunno, I was really looking forward to alone time with him (he lives with his parents & I live with 2 roommates). I dunno…I guess I feel that I was pushed aside or he just got caught up in this ‘last minute decision of having her come out’ (she is coming out in the end of FEB).
Then he told me that we could go the week after, but I told him it wouldn’t be the same because he would still be buried in his homework if we stayed up there.
So I guess yeah I may sound like I am just jealous, but I feel like he should of talked to me before just going off a whim like that. I know they talk all the time (he talks in front of me on the phone with her too,so its not like it is this big ol ‘secret’) I have heard a few months back about him saying she should come visit, but I just thought that was just polite talk not him being serious…lol
Anyways, so on top of all that (sorry this is getting long ya’ll!!)
Last night I found out that for sure she was coming down (her bf was giving her a hard time for coming down here with out him). I asked why she want to come down and he said that she wanted to get out of nowhereville and out of the cold (we live in a really big city and she lives up in the Midwest). Then he went on to tell me a little about her (since I have never met/talked to her I only saw her my space once before she blocked it) and how she wants to better her live and that she is thinking of moving out here…ect. He was saying that she was complaining how she doenst make that much money and whatever.
I then thought about it and asked ‘So did you buy her ticket?”…he paused and the said ‘yes, I figured it could be her Christmas present’. So I was thinking that was a little weird but not THAT big a deal since he has a little $ saved up.
Then I asked if he was paying for her hotel too and he said that she would probly stay at his parents house in his room. I looked at him funny and he laughed and said ‘Im not gonna be there in the bed with her! Jesus, I’m sleeping on the couch or maybe my brother can let her use his room or something”. I think that is a little weird but I guess it is not like he will be alone with her(since its not like he is at his apt…its his PARENTS place…lol).
Plus I trust that he would not do anything in that manner. But everyone I have talked to thinks is sounds weird. So now it is making me paranoid and I am not that type of person.
My bf is a really honest person and I don’t think he would ‘be’like that’. When we first both met we talked about how wrong it is to cheat on a person (we both had been screwd that way in the past) so I don’t think he would do that…
But a little piece of me has doubt, but I guess it is only natural I suppose??
Of anyone can give me some rantional advice and not “OMG! HE IS CHEATING, U IDOT’ advice, Id appreciate it
Thx in advance
V
Okay so my lil “sister” stayed at my house with me and my brother and mom last Thursday. Our families have been friends for 14 years. Whenever she is at her mom’s house she has a midnight curfew. Whenever she stays at my house, her curfew is whatever mine is, that is how it has always been. She is almost 17 and I am almost 22 btw. Anyways Thursday, we decided to go see my older “brother” who lives about 25 minutes from my house. Anyways, time got away from us, and we were sitting in the lobby of the hotel my brother works at and she updated my myspace saying something about being in Linn with her and so on. Well her mom calls the next day, pissed off because we were in Linn at 4:30 in the morning, saying that she knows her curfew is midnight and that we should have told her and no one knew we were going down there. We explained to her mom that my mom knew where we were, we both had our cell phones, and we have never had to tell her mom what we were doing or where we were going as long as my mom knew and that she never had a curfew when she stayed with us. We told her that we didn’t mean to stay that late (which was the truth) that time just got away from us and we apologized. She apologized for over-reacting and said it was fine, she was just suprised because we always tell her when we are planning on going somewhere outside of town. We told her it was last minute and she said okay that was fine. Well I guess she had said something to a friend of hers about it before we talked to her. Afterwords she was telling her friend what we talked about and her friend now thinks that my “sister” shouldn’t be able to spend the night anymore and we shouldn’t be allowed to hang out w/out one of her other kids there and that she should be grounded for the next 3 weeks. Now “mom” is thinking it over! This is ridiculous! My “sister” and I are neither one irresponsible or untrustworthy. We have never gotten in trouble (other than grounded for attitude or something like that), we both work, we help take care of our neices and nephews from irresponsible siblings, and we take care of our houses and cars. We came to an agreement with her mom, that no matter what, anytime we plan on doing something outside of town, we will at least leave her a text message letting her know our plans. Now, because of her friends saying we were being irresponsible and lying and that we are untrustworthy, she is rethinking this and is talking about grounding us from each other for the first half of the summer. This man does not even know me and my “sister” let alone our personalities and history. So we made a deal, we put the question on here and we’re going to let you decide. Should my “sister” and I be grounded from each other for the first half of the summer, should she be grounded for 3 weeks, or should “mom” stick to the agreement we made? Mind you, technically we didn’t break any rules, we just stayed out later than she thought, and didn’t give a courtesy call.
here’s the deal… we have vacation from 21 July to 5 August, and our origingal plans just fell through.
We are looking for somewhere nice – nice hotel, good food, beach, sand, sun… don’t want to spend too much, but we’re not on a shoestring budget either! We don’t want to go to any big city, but prefer a village, and want to be on the beach.
Anyone have any recommendations, based on their own experience – of somewhere to go – that won’t already be full of Italian or German tourists (as the summer holdiay season here has started…)
thanks!!!
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