okay so heres a long story, ill try to make it simple. me and this guy met on a cruise. it was a 9 day cruise, and we met the first night. he was with all of his cousins and we hung out as a big group the 1st,2nd,and 3rd night. the 4th night we started hanging out in a group, then me and this kid hung out alone and we talked the entire night. we talked about everything, and we only hooked up by the end of the night. but before we hooked up, he asked if me and him were hanging out the next night and i said of course. he slept over that night and layed with me. the 5th night he was in the casino so my friend went to get him cause he was winning. he came to hang out with me. i layed on him and we started hooking up and he asked me if i wanted to go to his room. i told him he could go back to the casino and he told me he wanted to be with me. we got to his room and we were talking then i layed on the bed and he followed and we were hooking up. he did everything to me, i didnt do anything to him. everything led to sex. he didnt talk much during it, but he was gentle and really sweet afterwards. after sex, he walked me back to my room and was going to come in but his cousin walked past, so the 3 of us went to the casino. him and his cousin were in a rush cause someone was winning but he kept looking back to make sure i was still there, which was really sweet. i got tired so i told him i was going back to my room to sleep. he said he would come to my room in a little while. sure enough, he came to my room to sleepover and lay with me. the next night he came looking for me but he thought i was with another guy, so the next two nights we didnt talk cause he was upset. finally, the 8th night he confronted me about it, and said he was looking for me, but thought i was with another guy. i told him i wasnt, and he even asked my best friend what the deal with me was. that night we hung out and talked for a long time, and he was saying how im his gf on the cruise, and if i lived where he did, wed be going out, and how hes marrying me. haha. we ended up having sex again but this time he was constantly asking me if i was alright and he told me to tell him when to stop and if it hurt. after that, he slept over and layed with me. the next and last night we just hung out the entire night and talked and he kissed me on the lips goodbye.
right after the cruise, he contacted me. we have been in contact now for 10 months, and weve seen eachother twice. one time i surprise visited him for 20 minutes, and the other time we planned, and we did not have sex or do anything except talk the entire night. after that visit, he texted me and said “thanks for coming ..cant wait to see you again” later that night i told him i was going to sleep and i told him to have fun and he said “all my fun left at 12″..which is when i left. we even had a conversation that night and i asked if he used me and he promised he didnt. later i said “im really glad we got to talk tonight about that stuff”..and he said “youre real cool i would never use you”
two nights later he texted me again and we were talking and i was asking him to come visit me and we can go to the city..he said “way rather see you then the city,” meaning..it doesnt matter what we do as long as i see you ..which was really sweet. he would also comment me at random times with funny videos. the last time we were supposed to hang out, i was in his state, and i was staying at a hotel. he was gonna come and pick up my friends, and we even talked that night about it but he never called. he made a mistake, and he knew it. he called later that night and said “i dont care how much it costs im getting a hotel room at your hotel..and you and youre friends can come over and chill…i wanna see you so badly” i told him it was too late, and he should have thought about that earlier. he knew he was wrong…
5 days later he calls me to apologize. he was really sincere, and it made me feel really important. it must have taken him 5 days to muster up the confidence, cause he called me right after work. he asked me when i was coming down again..and he said “you never write me anymore on myspace..let’s keep this long distance relationship going” and then he told me he hopes i have a great day at school the next day. it was really cute.
now his myspace song is hey there delilah. i happen to be going to college near where he lives in 2 months, and he knows that.
1. do you think he used me in the beginning..or is holding onto me for sex in college?
2. do you think he just likes me because of sex?
3. do you think he wants a relationship with me and really likes me a lot?
4. do you think were just friends or more?
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First question to you: how did you get to write so much over the 1000 word limit?!!!
Next, you really need to take a step back and look at how much this guy has given you and how sweet and considerate he’s been to you, but then you turned bratty and over-reacted when he missed talking to you one night. Do you actually question that he likes you? And the sex thing? You guys hit it off, you didn’t just fall into bed together right away, and when you were close for a while on the cruise (close, like, you talked alot and got to know each other, etc.), you finally had sex. If he just liked you for sex, he would not have waited and he would not still be in contact with you. You sound like you want this to happen and you care about this guy, why ruin it because you feel you have to be stubborn?
…ok first of all how old are you two? im guessing early 20′s…from all you said about your trip and all you did with this boy…id say he sounds really nice…if you was just a quickie he would have not talked to you again…but you stayed together on the whole trip and then after the trip as well…you have totally stayed in touch after the trip…Do you like this guy? Honestly he sounds like he is sincere and really likes you….Id say he wants a relationship…Seems he wants to be close to you….dont let him get away……..My opinion.
Interesting story, but I can’t answer that. He has to answer it. You can tell the next time you seem him does he only want everything to lead to sex or actually have a descent conversation? Yeah you may have had one or two meeting without sex. But from now on everytime you do see him, if he wants to get on you every single time he feels he needs it or so then maybe so. Just don’t keep questioning him about it because he will only think you’re assuming faults instead observe his behavior and what he says to you.
You wouldn’t know whether he is with you just for the sex until you actually be with him for longer, and see him often when you move nearer to him for college.
It’s not easy to start things off ‘long-distance’. Get to know him better, be his friend. If you are hesitant the next time he wants to get into your pants, tell him you have second thoughts – and tell him the full story why you have second thoughts. For e.g., there is a part of you that is wondering whether he likes you just because he wants to have sex.
You can only know whether he wants a long term relationship with you, instead of just a casual commitment-free one, by asking him and telling him you want an honest answer.
OK, if you take as long to tell him things as you did to write this story, he may not stay around much longer – LOL.
He does seem to genuinely like you. I doubt he’s holding on to you for sex in college – he’ll have plenty of other options for that. There are also plenty of other girls closer that he could like just because of sex.
Take more time to get to know him – he sounds like a nice guy – one who’s worth investing some time and effort into.
I think he likes you a lot. But is having a hard time just seeing you ever so otfen. I think he has a GF close by, but if you move v=closer he would drop her in a heart beat. Doesn’t sound like he’s using u 4 sex @ ALL. He listens and talks way 2 much. I don’t even think I have talked all nite with a guy, I am older the you are.. take it slow! till you can be closer 2 him. LDR’s are hard but u sound like u guys are doing pretty gud!!!
Sounds like you both would like to take it further to me but right now it’s just get what you can get. Long distance relationships are always like that. If you two lived in the same town it may be different.