my girlfriend and i been dating for goin on 3 months, she just got out of a off and on 4 year relationship with her ex, he use to like punch her and treat her bad, etc….so we fell in love and she started dating me 2 weeks after her and her ex were finally done and her ex made her choose, between me and him and she chose me, i always ask her though are you ready you just got out of a 4 yr relationship, i hope your ex didnt take everything out of you cuz she said she wud give me her all, but i feel y wouldnt she want time to her self, thats a long time to date someone, they lived together and everything, but now shes pregnant by me and we are supposed to live together in december after i finish college and she wants to be with me forever she says, but i dont wanna get hurt, with her ex she broke up with him again in feb dated another guy admitted to him he was a rebound went back to her ex broke up w him in may then started dating me in june, with her ex they had a miscarriage and she said she never cheated ever in her life but when she was 16 she use to be a little hoochie but she grew out of that stage………now she told me she will always tell me everything, even if it hurts my feelings cause she tells it straight up like it is…..im one 2 worry alot and very insecure but lately she been making me feel this is rly going to work out…my mom rented us a hotel room last night at a casino and i woke up this morning decided to look at her calls when she was in the bahtroom and i noticed her ex called her 3 nights ago at 3:52 am…they talked for 25:00 minutes exactly….i told her if u didnt care bout him u should of hung up the phone immediately when you found out it was him, but she talked for 25 minutes so there must be something going on….when she falls asleep normally around 11am if i text her within a half hour she doesnt anwer my txt or sometimes ill call her and she wont answer cuz she says she cant hear the phone cuase shes so out of it sleeping but she just fell asleep she would be more amp to answer versus if i texted her 4 hours after she was sleeping but coincidentially she answered for her ex…she didnt no the number cuz she had him out of her phone but she never wakes up she said she just answered but she never told me they talked and she always tells me everything….now i cant trust her with that…she cud of hung up the phone that makes me curious….i asked her who it was and she said she didnt know she said she doesnt even remember talking, thats the first time they talked in like 2 months..but when i called the number his voicemail came up and she said well i forgot to tell you, i said thats a big deal but u forget to tell me….she always said she hated her ex, and wud never talk to him…i asked her what they talked about and she said how he said his family is having alot of trouble….and how how he use to cheat on her….she told him to stay away from his family and she thinks its better if they are apart…but shouldnt she know that? doesnt that mean she been thinking about him? idk i always get hurt ad played cuase im a nice respectful boyftriend…..do you think i was on the rebound and idk i need opinions and thoughts!!! she has been acting different the past few days but she told me after i confronted her how she loves me and she is gonna be with me forever and she wud never go back to him…and dontt ell my parents they will hate her…and it isnt like they talk it was one time….well why didnt she tell me….why did she talk so long…and why if he beat her up n treated her like **** wud she answer!!!! is she feeding me lines….!!!????
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Dude, finish with that *****. Or talk to her about it, not on here.
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First of all…if she’s pregnant by you, you’re in a world of hurt already, but that’s not the question you asked…
As far as her playing on you….she may be…she may not be…but what she IS doing is keeping her options open. She is like many women. She has “fear of abandonment issues.” Without going into too much detail, she just doesn’t want to be alone without a man.
My suggestion to you…get out of the relationship and tell her that the reason why is that you don’t feel emotionally stable because she does things that don’t make sense. If she hates her ex, why does she still talk to him?
Your problem is that you are desperate.Neither of you know the other well enough to say you love the other.It takes time to get to know someone and now she has you hooked.She is pregnant and still communicating with this guy.She needed time to be on her own and live a while without him in her life.Now she is going to be going back and forth and saying “well I try to get rid of him,but he just keeps popping back up etc.”
She probably still has feelings for him and at some level hopes he will change and that being with you and pregnant will make him jealous enough to change.He on the other hand probably has a selfish love for her and wants to remain in control.They feed each other’s sicknesses.
All I can say is hang in there and see what happens because YOU have a baby on the way now.If she goes running back to him, you file for custody(not to get back at her) but he would be a danger to your child.
I think I would want a DNA test done, but thats up to you.
yep, she does and yep, if she hated him she would have just hang up when found out it were him and poor u, seems like she is gonna play u too. for the future u may read http://www.sosuave.com – they will teahc u how not to be treated like crap by girls. and yep, u were a rebound and yes, she needed time for herself. if u knew all this why did u start with her?
Feeding you …could be
some people who have a four yr thing with someone and been hit by a guy……usually finds it hard to drop the feelings for someone that is mean to them……it’s crazy…but it happens a lot…..She shouldn’t be talking to him at all for any reason…..and hiding it from you….not a good thing……but, because all of this has already happened….You know what will continue to happen……something has to give…..And, if this baby is yours…be the man and always be there for that baby …no matter what happens
first need to relax and type properly.
Second i dont think she is playing you around but she has a few sus points which you need to figure out. Playing around especially when she is pregnant is terrible.
What i suggest is you continue to go with the flow and keep an eye out and be prepared for the worse. Hell if it was me i would of rang him to meet him and asked him myself whats been going out then probably knocked him on his *** for being such a ********
you need to sit down with her and simply tell her this, tell her that it bothers you that she is still talking to her ex. if she cares anything about you then she will conform to your wishes. talking to the ex isn’t healthy for your relationship anyways. after you have that talk with her and you catch her sneaking around and still talking or even visiting the ex for no good reason, then dump her. that means that shes still hung up on him and maybe you are the rebound.
I think she is genuine with you but obviously she is finding it hard to let go of her past, especially when her ex is calling her still. Men like that are all about control and he will want to know that he can still control her even though they are not still together. You need to talk to her about this and tell her how she is making you feel.
He may try and get her back if she continues to stay in touch with him. If she is with you, she should respect your feelings and not have contact with him. It’s understandable that you are having trouble trusting her.