Ok, sorry but this is gonna be long, I’ll tell you practically the entire story so that way you’ll be able to understand more…I’d like to know what you guys think about it!
Last may I met a guy at the bar and we spend the night playing pool at the end of the night we left our seperate ways. I saw him again at the bar in july, I remembered nothing about him but he remembered my name and even what I was wearing that night in may. Anyways, that night we left together and the rest of the night was just awesome. 2 days later he came to the restaurant I used to work so I gave him my number. The next night we hooked up again and when we woke up the next morning his pick-up truck was smashed…I mean really smashed, $4000 in damage. I thought for sure that that would put an end to whatever we had cause he was pretty sure that my bf had did it…Ya I know I had a bf and he also had a gf….Anyways after that I started working at an hotel and I only saw him after that in august…Turns out that the hotel I started working at is the hotel he stays at everytime he works in town, wich was 3 weeks a month. Well when we saw each other again in August we made a deal that we would be friends with benefits, I was fine with that cause we were both in relationships and he was fun…Well, everytime I was doing his room, I always had a note waiting for me, when I was working nights too every night when he was done work he was always coming to see me in whatever room I was in and he was always inviting me to go up his room once I was done work, even if it was just to have a smoke…Then we started texting, I mean really texting….often it happened that we would start texting at 9 in the morning and we would stop like at 8 at night, actually we’re still doing that. We also had a deal that we couldn’t text each other if we were not working in case we would get caught, he started texting me even when he was on days off when he was at home with gf…Then around october well he stopped going home on days off and he was staying in town, he was rigwatching instead of going home, he invited me often too to go to the rig, in october I realized I was falling for him. Even when he was working out of town he was taking the time to come and see me. In november I spend 2 days at the rig with him…In december at the bar one night it was girls gone wild so he had invited me, i went but me and bf got into huge fight so i left. That night I took a hotel room to get away from bf and I had called him to let him know that I was ok and 10 minutes later he was knocking on my hotel room, he left his friends at the bar and spend the night with me instead of watching girls gone wild. December was the month we hooked up the more. We both became single in the same week in december wich is weird, it just happened. Since the end of december he’s been working in AB and I live in BC so we don’t see each other that often anymore but we still text everyday and still mostly it’s all day long. He came to see me in February for 2 days and it was awesome, the second day we spend the day in bed just to cuddle…Next week he’s days off again and he’s coming to see me…Right now we are also making plans to go spend a weekend together in AB for may.
Since the beginning he told me that we would only be friends and nothing more…We are both single now and he tells me that he wants to stay single…I’m falling for him real bad and me and my friends believes that he’s interested but we think that it scares him.
It doesn’t make sense to us with everything he does that he only wants to be friends……texting me everyday, making plans to take me away on vacation and driving 3 hrs to just have sex when he could have sex easily in his town, it doesn’t makes sense at all!
Do you think he’s also interested or does he only wants to be friends with benefits?
Your opinion would be appreciated, it would help me decide what I should do, go for him or stop everything.
Thanks!
Ok that was really long but i read it lol
Ok, My opinion is that he likes you and it sounds like he probably wants more also. Not all guys are heartless and if I was in his situation it would be hard not to fall for you.
But if I can give you advice, well maybe not advice just something I would do in your situation. If I was you and was falling for someone as much as you have, I wouldn’t hesitate to try and make it more than friends with benefits. If you dont try now, it will makes things really weird between the two of you when say he finds a girl friend. Could you imagine how you would feel in that case, it wouldn’t be worth waiting around and hopping for the best when you can seize the moment and make an actual relationship out of it and its very obvious that you want one. When I was fooling around with a friend that I wanted more then just a fun night with, I asked her “when are we going to make this official, I have these amazing feelings for you and couldn’t imagine continuing this without at least being able to call you mine”. idk, it worked for me and i probably sound gay to you lol
Good luck
you’re right !friends with benefits only. maybe he doesnt want commitments…he just want to have sex with you! thats it! i dont mean to be rude but thats the real thing i can see. i met lots of guys like that…they said “you want sex you will have sex”.
wtf is wrong with you???
Well I think its all just sex. Men don’t care how far you are…if they know that when they get to where they’re going that thier getting free sex they will go. Plus, he probably would have said something. I think you should cut off all sexual contact with him because I know how this ends. You’re just setting yourself up to get hurt. Now if he says, that he has feelings for you, that’s fine. But he hasn’t so you have to do what’s best for you. You should tell him that you’re falling for him and that you can no longer be his booty buddy anymore because you don’t want to get hurt and see what he has to say. But for now, he’s sleeping with you and everything else because he knows he can. Good luck!